What is a bonding session?
A bonding session is an hour-long session in my home studio in the Hilltop neighborhood in Denver. The purpose of these sessions is to be stripped-down, simple, just you and your child, with nothing to distract, nothing but time to be together, playing, snuggling, bonding.
I am looking to photograph the deep and true connection between baby and mom, and the complexities of motherhood. I am not about posing you or your baby. I'm looking to cut through to the depth of true feelings.
In 2016, I had a traumatic birth, and it took me a few months to realize that the thing I really needed most was to process my birth experience with other women. The best way I could think to do that was to talk with and photograph women right after birth. It was incredibly therapeutic for me to work through my experience by being present and documenting the other mothers. I still feel "postpartum" 5 years later. And so I use these sessions as a way to connect with women about birth, bonding, and motherhood. It's incredibly moving for me to get to shape this space in my life, and to help other women capture and remember their own.
I offer bonding sessions from newborn to age six. I've broken them up into these three categories to give you a sense of what it might look and feel like to be in the studio with your child:
I am looking to photograph the deep and true connection between baby and mom, and the complexities of motherhood. I am not about posing you or your baby. I'm looking to cut through to the depth of true feelings.
In 2016, I had a traumatic birth, and it took me a few months to realize that the thing I really needed most was to process my birth experience with other women. The best way I could think to do that was to talk with and photograph women right after birth. It was incredibly therapeutic for me to work through my experience by being present and documenting the other mothers. I still feel "postpartum" 5 years later. And so I use these sessions as a way to connect with women about birth, bonding, and motherhood. It's incredibly moving for me to get to shape this space in my life, and to help other women capture and remember their own.
I offer bonding sessions from newborn to age six. I've broken them up into these three categories to give you a sense of what it might look and feel like to be in the studio with your child:
Bonding sessions won't necessarily to look how you imagine they might. Maybe your child will cry, or protest, or panic at the thought of being in a new place with a stranger during this nasty pandemic, when what they're used to is going nowhere, and being with no one except you. Maybe your child is shy, or anxious, or tired from a long night. These are all things we do our best to work through during a session. And, gratefully, the energy in a session like this often changes dramatically from the beginning to the end. With lots of love and reassurance and play and comfort with the mama, I find that the time in the studio almost always ends in great joy. The power of a bonding session is that it is really all about your love. Your connection. No matter what that looks like.
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS ABOUT BONDING SESSIONS
WHAT WILL I WEAR?
WHAT IS THE BEST AGE FOR A BONDING SESSION?
SHOULD I BRING MORE THAN ONE OF MY CHILDREN WITH ME TO THE BONDING SESSION?
WHAT IF MY KID IS "TOO WILD"?
MY BABY DOESN'T BEHAVE LIKE THE BABIES IN YOUR PHOTOGRAPHS. WHAT IF I DON'T GET ANY BEAUTIFUL PHOTOGRAPHS?
WHAT IF MY CHILD PEES OR POOPS DURING THE SESSION?
HOW LONG DO YOU TAKE TO EDIT PHOTOGRAPHS?
WHAT IS THE BEST AGE FOR A BONDING SESSION?
SHOULD I BRING MORE THAN ONE OF MY CHILDREN WITH ME TO THE BONDING SESSION?
WHAT IF MY KID IS "TOO WILD"?
MY BABY DOESN'T BEHAVE LIKE THE BABIES IN YOUR PHOTOGRAPHS. WHAT IF I DON'T GET ANY BEAUTIFUL PHOTOGRAPHS?
WHAT IF MY CHILD PEES OR POOPS DURING THE SESSION?
HOW LONG DO YOU TAKE TO EDIT PHOTOGRAPHS?
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What will I wear?
I love skin to skin, but that doesn't mean that you and your babe have to be naked. The black walls and black clothing are kind of a magic combination, and they really highlight your skin, your bond, your faces. You'll wear all black (yoga pants and shirt, no insignias or patterns on either). If you want to wear less, I can always work with you to cover your nipples, or be more discrete. We'll work out little tricks to cover you if you want to do breastfeeding images (topless or not). I absolutely love all of it, so let's find a way to do it how you feel comfortable!
My favorite look is having the child nude, but I never show photographs with genitalia, so I'll ask you to cover them if they're facing me. Older kids (toddlers and up) can be harder to convince to go nude, so you're always welcome to bring a black shirt and leggings for them as well. Feel free to dress them in solid black to come to the session so that if they won't undress when they arrive, they're already ready to go.
The mama in the photographs below wanted some with her child wearing a black cloth diaper, and some with him nude. I think these looks are both really beautiful.
My favorite look is having the child nude, but I never show photographs with genitalia, so I'll ask you to cover them if they're facing me. Older kids (toddlers and up) can be harder to convince to go nude, so you're always welcome to bring a black shirt and leggings for them as well. Feel free to dress them in solid black to come to the session so that if they won't undress when they arrive, they're already ready to go.
The mama in the photographs below wanted some with her child wearing a black cloth diaper, and some with him nude. I think these looks are both really beautiful.
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You're invited to wear jewelry if you want, but I'd say only if it's something that's meaningful to you, or that says something about you that you think is important. I want as few things as possible in the photographs that are distracting. I would discourage you from putting anything on your child, like headbands. I think the fewer extra items in the photographs the better.
Make sure to remove any chipped nail polish. I think makeup is just fine for the session, if that's something that gives you confidence. I encourage you to come to the studio feeling your best. If you feel beautiful, that will come through in the photos. But if you're not a makeup person, don't give it a second thought.
The mama below wanted to wear her jewelry for the session, and I thought it brought something meaningful. Being indigenous is deeply important to who she is, and who her child is.
Make sure to remove any chipped nail polish. I think makeup is just fine for the session, if that's something that gives you confidence. I encourage you to come to the studio feeling your best. If you feel beautiful, that will come through in the photos. But if you're not a makeup person, don't give it a second thought.
The mama below wanted to wear her jewelry for the session, and I thought it brought something meaningful. Being indigenous is deeply important to who she is, and who her child is.
What's the best age for a bonding session?
I do sessions from newborn to age 3. I don't have a preference for age, because I find that babies grow and change so much all the time, it's going to be rich and meaningful and beautiful no matter what.
If you're thinking newborn: Some photographers require newborn sessions to be done in the first ten days. I consider newborn sessions to be anything in the first three months, often called the Fourth Trimester. The reason I don't rush to do newborn sessions is two-fold. One: because some mamas aren't ready for photographs so quickly. I know I wasn't. I was in a lot of pain after my birth, and certainly didn't feel like being photographed. I struggled to leave the house for weeks after my birth. I couldn't have made it to a studio, even if I wasn't the one being photographed. I want mothers who come in with their babies to feel confident when they walk into the space. I want them to feel good in their bodies, and ready for pictures. The mama wearing black clothes in front of a black wall does a lot to eliminate the focus on our postpartum bodies, but the goal for the session is for the mama to feel ready inside and out. It often takes a few weeks (or months) for women to feel ready to put themselves back into the world, back into the public eye.
The second reason not to rush for me is that I'm not trying to pose you. Not trying to get your babe to fall asleep. A lot of posed newborn sessions require that the babe be sleeping for photographs. I'm not against a sleeping babe at all, but it's not necessary for my sessions. What I'm looking to capture is just the relationship between you and your little one. Whatever that looks like, whatever happens during that hour. Your bond, your feelings, your love.
I'd say, if you want smiling, book a session for 6-8 months old or older. But be aware: your child may or may not smile. They may feel nervous in my space, may be distracted by the flash, or the new space. This pandemic world our kids are growing up in can cause a bit of anxiety in little ones, and they may be surprised to be in a new building with a stranger.
Toddlers can be really challenging because they don't really want to stand still, don't want to do what they're asked to do. But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't do the session. Toddler sessions are amazing! So much joy and energy and love. It just might be a bit of a workout. I try to play games with older kids, get them to engage, even for moments at a time. We don't need them to sit still the entire time. We want them to be themselves.
If you're thinking newborn: Some photographers require newborn sessions to be done in the first ten days. I consider newborn sessions to be anything in the first three months, often called the Fourth Trimester. The reason I don't rush to do newborn sessions is two-fold. One: because some mamas aren't ready for photographs so quickly. I know I wasn't. I was in a lot of pain after my birth, and certainly didn't feel like being photographed. I struggled to leave the house for weeks after my birth. I couldn't have made it to a studio, even if I wasn't the one being photographed. I want mothers who come in with their babies to feel confident when they walk into the space. I want them to feel good in their bodies, and ready for pictures. The mama wearing black clothes in front of a black wall does a lot to eliminate the focus on our postpartum bodies, but the goal for the session is for the mama to feel ready inside and out. It often takes a few weeks (or months) for women to feel ready to put themselves back into the world, back into the public eye.
The second reason not to rush for me is that I'm not trying to pose you. Not trying to get your babe to fall asleep. A lot of posed newborn sessions require that the babe be sleeping for photographs. I'm not against a sleeping babe at all, but it's not necessary for my sessions. What I'm looking to capture is just the relationship between you and your little one. Whatever that looks like, whatever happens during that hour. Your bond, your feelings, your love.
I'd say, if you want smiling, book a session for 6-8 months old or older. But be aware: your child may or may not smile. They may feel nervous in my space, may be distracted by the flash, or the new space. This pandemic world our kids are growing up in can cause a bit of anxiety in little ones, and they may be surprised to be in a new building with a stranger.
Toddlers can be really challenging because they don't really want to stand still, don't want to do what they're asked to do. But that doesn't mean that you shouldn't do the session. Toddler sessions are amazing! So much joy and energy and love. It just might be a bit of a workout. I try to play games with older kids, get them to engage, even for moments at a time. We don't need them to sit still the entire time. We want them to be themselves.
Should I bring more than one of my children with me to the bonding session?
This is a completely personal decision, and it really depends on you and your children. If you have a small baby and a wild toddler, and you're looking to have truly calm, deep eye contact and snuggling with your youngest, but your older child is going to be excitable and playful and want to jump around, then I'd recommend doing separate sessions with the two. If what you're looking for are playful, wild photos of all three of you, then bringing your higher energy older child sounds perfect. If your children are both even-keel, then it could be wonderful having them both. Three children is delightful, but a bit of a squish in my small studio. I haven't tried more than 3, but am up for a challenge if you are.
I've also had a few amazing sessions with little babies and (much) older children. In one session, the older children was 5 years older than her sister, and in the other session, the older brother was 12 years older than his sister. When the older sibling is so much older, they're able to really participate in bonding with and calmly holding that younger babe.
I say: if it'll be stressful, don't bring them together. If it will be fun and wonderful and you're up for whatever comes, then bring them together.
I've also had a few amazing sessions with little babies and (much) older children. In one session, the older children was 5 years older than her sister, and in the other session, the older brother was 12 years older than his sister. When the older sibling is so much older, they're able to really participate in bonding with and calmly holding that younger babe.
I say: if it'll be stressful, don't bring them together. If it will be fun and wonderful and you're up for whatever comes, then bring them together.
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What if my kid is "too wild"?
So far I haven't felt a kid was too wild for the studio. Honestly. It can feel high energy, and even chaotic sometimes, but there are always these beautiful moments of reprieve. No matter what. Things are very fast-moving, especially with toddlers. This amazing shoot (above) was with twin two year olds, and the girls did not stop moving the entire hour. It was fun and crazy and hilarious, and I was honestly unsure what was going to come through from the session. The girls were having a great time, but they weren't particularly interested in snuggling. They weren't interested in doing what we wanted them to do. They had their own plans. Their own fun.
It's almost more important to me that moms stay in the moment than children do. Because kids live so much in the present. When they're with us, they are fully and completely with us. It's not so simple for adults to do the same. It can be hard if our children aren't doing what we think they should be doing, but I really encourage mamas to try to just go with it. Be open hearted and flexible with our children during these sessions, and enjoy the moments when the child does come back to sit, even for a moment.
Part of the joy of this sort of session for me is that moments like the one shown in this photograph above -- deep connection and love -- always happen amidst that feeling of chaos. Always. Without fail. Because it’s just a fact of mothering. The children leave and come back, over and over and over. It feels like chaos, but there are always these moments of connection. However brief. And that’s always what I’m aiming to capture.
It's almost more important to me that moms stay in the moment than children do. Because kids live so much in the present. When they're with us, they are fully and completely with us. It's not so simple for adults to do the same. It can be hard if our children aren't doing what we think they should be doing, but I really encourage mamas to try to just go with it. Be open hearted and flexible with our children during these sessions, and enjoy the moments when the child does come back to sit, even for a moment.
Part of the joy of this sort of session for me is that moments like the one shown in this photograph above -- deep connection and love -- always happen amidst that feeling of chaos. Always. Without fail. Because it’s just a fact of mothering. The children leave and come back, over and over and over. It feels like chaos, but there are always these moments of connection. However brief. And that’s always what I’m aiming to capture.
My baby doesn't behave like the babies in your photographs. What if I don't get any beautiful ones?
I have had a fair number of mothers tell me, somewhat worriedly, that their child isn't "snuggly". Their child doesn't like being held much; wants to be out playing, free, exploring. I find that the best place to start with this worry is to remind mothers that this session is all about you and your child. It's about being in the moment with your babe. It's about connecting and bonding and seeing them deeply. In every single one of these sessions, we come away with gorgeous, deep, goofy and sweet, love-filled images. Because all it takes is the few seconds when your child looks right at you. Or the reaction when you give her raspberries on her belly. Or when you sing his favorite song. This session isn't about your kid "behaving" a certain way. It's not about conforming to an ideal. It's just about you and your child being yourselves. The way I design the session is to try to start at the heart of your bond with your baby. Before our session, you'll fill out a questionnaire about mothering. I want to show who your child really is, what your love for that child looks like, and how your relationship feels at this point in your lives, and I find that a little digging beforehand is really helpful. When you arrive, we'll talk about your answers, your experience of motherhood, and your babe.
Your photos won't look like anyone else's. They'll look like your real, honest bond with your little one.
Your photos won't look like anyone else's. They'll look like your real, honest bond with your little one.
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What if my child pees or poops during the session?
This is something that most moms coming into the studio worry about. Your babe will likely be naked for their session, so it's totally possible that they'll pee or poop. And it's completely fine if they do. Most children don't, for some reason, which always surprises and delights me. But even if yours does, it isn't a problem. We'll clean it up and keep going. I do recommend you bringing clean clothes for yourself and your kid, just in case anything happens....
How long do you take to edit photographs?
I typically deliver private session galleries within 7-10 days of our time together in the studio. You'll get a link to see the edited digital images from our session together, and you'll get to choose digital images and purchase paper prints.
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