I see you. You're interested in capturing the early days of your baby's life. These days are precious, and each one feels so monumental. Your baby is changing in front of your eyes. Gaining head control, eye contact, and maybe even giving you a few longer stretches of sleep. You want photographs of this time -- someone should capture this amazing moment in your lives -- but maybe you don't feel your best. Your most adorable. Maybe you don't feel like yourself very much right now. And much of the newborn photography industry is predicated on the idea that moms shouldn't be in the photograph. In a lot of ways, the baby is really centered in Newborn World. But I firmly disagree with that concept. Just like in the rest of my work, I want you in there. With your child. I want to show you what your love looks like. Even what it feels like. I want you to be able to relive this time together by looking back at the photographs of you and your brand new sweetie together. This baby was 4 months old when his mama brought him into the studio. Having a newborn is a complicated phenomenon. The sleep deprivation. The changes in our bodies. The hormones. The way our bodies and brains shift to make mental space and begin to bond with the tiny mammal that just joined the family. I have two children, 7 years apart, and I felt like a first time mom after both births. They were extremely different births, and therefore wildly different postpartum experiences. But after neither birth did I feel like throwing my body in front of a camera. Both times I felt protective of my body, and my baby. I wanted space to heal and bond. When you get typical newborn photographs, the photographer often requires that the baby be young enough to put to sleep easily. The newborn is meant to look a certain way (and most importantly, the baby's eyes are meant to be closed). I do not fall into that camp as a newborn photographer. I consider the full "fourth trimester" -- the four months after birth -- to be newborn, and all of it is worth capturing. These are seminal months of motherhood, and it still feels new and incredibly meaningful long after the first few days. I don't limit newborn sessions to those first ten days of life. And part of that is because I want you in the photographs too. The photos are meant to tell a story about your love for your baby. And that story isn’t necessarily a simple one. This sweet girl was 3 months old during our session. You don't have to rush into the studio right away. Take your time. Bond with your baby. Let your body come back together. You don’t have to get photos with her in the first few days for those photographs to capture her early days. The older a newborn gets, the more she’ll open her eyes, so the photographs can change a great deal in those first few months. But a babe looking at the camera is not my goal. I focus, as I do in all Bonding Sessions, on the bond between mom and baby. How Mama feels holding her baby. The emotional connection. And much of that is in the mama’s face, not the baby’s. The babe below was just a few weeks old when we did our session. This sweet babe was 4 months old when he came into the studio with his mama. This sweet family came in when the youngest was a couple of months old, and his older sister was 5 years old.
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One of the things I love about photo sessions is how they freeze our lives in place. Years from now, we'll be able to time travel back into these brief moments with our children merely by looking at a beautiful photograph. Oh yes, that’s what it felt like to touch her feet. To smell his soft curls. To lean my head against hers.
And it’s amazing to see not just one moment in our lives captured, but a series of moments over the years. Clients who’ve come back to the studio more than once get to see more than one of those bonding moments, those deeply special connections. Look how small her hands were next to mine. And look at his squishy little round cheeks. Was he ever that small? Photographs can be such a gift, and it’s my joy to get to take part in the process of freezing those memories. A physical representation of your love for your children growing, maturing, expanding through the years. I've photographed this sweet mama and her son every year for three years, since he was 8 months old. It's been really touching to see him grow up, and to see his mom evolve as a parent. Their sessions are always such a beautiful representation of their love, and their evolving relationship, and I really treasure getting to see this sweet boy growing up. Nothing stands still in childhood. Things change minute to minute, day to day. And we change with it. You can see in these photographs how these two have evolved. It's absolutely stunning. How can so much shift in just a few years? Do you have a rough and rowdy, playful family? Do you worry about how that will translate on camera? Are your kids high energy? Stepping into the studio might seem like something you're not prepared to do. How will the photographs turn out? What will your children do? How will you keep everyone sane and happy? How will you make it look like your family has achieved that kind of calm that you're always seeing in other families' photographs? I think quite a lot of moms come into the studio kind of stressed. Kind of over it. Kind of burned out. Because motherhood is an absolute crapshoot. We're dealing with a constant stream of challenges and issues we didn't imagine the day before, or maybe it's the same stuff over and over. It's complex, it's grating, it's frustrating. We're holding the emotions of our children in our hearts at all times, and it can be truly exhausting. But in every session, I find that there are always always always moments of real deep beauty. Because children flash in and out of deep emotions with real clarity and fluidity. All you have to do is meet them there. Don’t worry about where they’re looking (many a photograph has been ruined by a worried mom pointing at the camera so their kid will look at me). Don’t worry about the kids’ faces. Their faces will go through 1000 emotions in an hour, and I’ll take 1000 photographs. It’s much more challenging for a mama to be in the moment than for a child to arrive in joy or play. The barriers for them are so very low. A goofy look from you, a sound they didn’t expect, a fart joke. They’ll arrive at joy. You just have to be prepared to meet them there. Give them a soft place to land. If they spend most of the session testing your boundaries, then we’ve got a typical kid on our hands. So don’t sweat it. Join in with fun. We’re going to get those beautiful shots. This session was absolute chaos. And I know the mama in the photographs wouldn’t mind me saying so. She has a big, vivacious, loving, high-energy family with a spread of about 10 years with twins in the middle. The mama spent our session together in a mode of (mostly -- after all, she’s also human) release from control. She seemed to let go of the “make it all look perfect” thing that we definitely all have eating at us at all times. She didn’t, and I certainly didn’t, pose the kids. Make them act happy. We just let them loose. Let them play. And the photographs feel like them, I think. They feel wild and fun and full of the energy of their amazing family. Nothing was controlled, and that’s ok. In fact, it’s a beautiful, amazing gift. One of the things I absolutely love about these photographs is the kinetic energy. Nothing (and no one) is standing still. They were constantly moving and shuffling around, showing their bonds with their siblings and their mom. It was 100% play, and I was there for it.
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